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I had no idea how much of my daily interactions with my wife were subtle negotiations for sex, but my wife sure did. Though I could never do a whole month, I did do it for two weeks, and what it taught me about my sexuality and how it can dominate my marriage was nothing short of revelatory. First, some context. As an erotica writer, I wanted to understand the common theme of chastity to write more believable characters. My wife agreed to be my keyholder for two weeks and unlock me only if she desired it.
I had a spare key to unlock for safety reasons and maintenance, but not for any other reason. With these rules in place, our dynamic changed within three days. What had started as some fun denial play became something else entirely. Simply put, I had no idea how much of my daily interactions with my wife were subtle negotiations for sex, but my wife sure did. But now, if my hand lingered too long on a caress, my cage made the motivations painfully obvious.
Call it cognitive behaviour therapy for my penis. Beforehand, her being playful with me was viewed primarily as an invitation to sex. Now it could now exist on its own. I was liberated to enjoy the act of listening. Subsequently, she opened up physically and emotionally and I enjoyed being the emotional support a husband is supposed to be. Over time, my sexual needs became less singularly focused on the end goal of orgasm, and more focused on courtship and on her. Closeness, caresses and bonding took prominence over my desire to get off.
I still wanted sex, but I was free from the dishonest dealings of my libido. I wanted sex as an accompaniment to intimacy, not intimacy as post-coital add-on. This distinction was huge. When the sex did come, it was better both physically and emotionally for us both.
There were other benefits, too. She felt more entitled to her needs and filtered her words less. I used it when putting in the time to get my partner in the mood seemed like too much effort. When left without masturbation I sought other options. Intimacy with my wife in a reciprocation-free environment for her allowed her to ease into the enjoyment of it and allowed me to be a part of her pleasure without filtering it through my own.
Needless to say, that was a lot of fun for us both. If I was stressed, my new avenue was one that had always been there: I talked to my wife about it. She had great insights but mostly she just listened. The stress went away, and unlike the short-term benefit masturbation provided, I got longer term benefits like companionship, trust, vulnerability and reassurance. I emerged from my two weeks with my masculinity intact, but a deeper understanding of what it meant to be her man.
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