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Men pay me to erotically humiliate them. Erotic humiliation fetishes are the most popular among submissives. Verbal belittlement is a consensual psychological form of humiliation that creates a rise in excitement for both the top and the bottom. This form of humiliation is typically done in private and falls under the BDSM umbrella, meaning a safe word is always recommended.
Though they are typically considered the same thing, humiliation and degradation are actually quite different. Sexual stimulation is often, but not always, the result of verbal humiliation. Humiliation play is also typically fostering a type of fetish. The two linked humiliating acts can cause an arousal. An example would be using demeaning language with the sub either in a forced feminization, a pet play or slave scene. For each individual, these preferences may change but since it is something that I implement into my professional world, I make the rules quite literally.
Like with physical pain, humiliation is able to stimulate an area of the brain that also remembers social rewards. Sexual humiliation can be a lifestyle or a BDSM scene. Role-play is a common type of humiliation, which is where language can provide a great environment for your scene.
First, make sure everyone involved is consenting. Ego reduction is a way to achieve humiliation play. This is a form of sexual role-play in the BDSM scene and can include financial domination or simply cashing in for custom videos. Men, quite literally, pay me to be mean to them. I mostly send depending on their fetish photos of my feet, videos of my boots, or simply my face where I demand a certain task for the day.
I enjoy the way the words fall out of my mouth and I enjoy their reactions. I would suggest starting with small talk—quick phrases, humiliating words—just test the waters in the beginning.
If you would like, text your partner or send them short videos to understand your language better before bringing into the bedroom. A way to to begin erotic humiliation is to compliment them while embracing them. Like my suggested phrase above—you are stating that they do give you please and they do satisfy you, but their satisfaction is unnecessary. Basic dirty talk can also be implemented into the scene. Cussing and calling body parts derogatory terms is a way to turn on a submissive.
A phrase like: Once you understand what your partner wants, you can begin to find words and phrases that turn them on. Moreover, what do you want? Talking, or scolding, your submissive like a child or commanding them to confirm your actions are various ways to be experimental with arousal via language. Whispering, yelling, growling, laughing, and angrily talking to them can change the tone of the entire scene. For many submissive, laughing at their body or making fun of their performance is a great way to give them what they want.
Like anything, verbal humiliation takes practice. Use a thesaurus, learn some phrases, and seek out erotic verbal humiliation.
Always make sure to pick up on any cues from a submissive and gauge reactions while also creating a comfort level for yourself. The more enjoyable you find verbal humiliation, the more humiliating it will be. When you think, or worry, too much about what should be said, you lose the freedom of speaking fluidly. Nicole Lane on February 7, Nicole is a women's health journalist living in Chicago.
In addition to writing she is an artist who works with assemblage and sculpture. She tweets at snicolelane. Related Articles. Read On.